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    The Tinder Superlike: Good for your self-confidence, bad for the size of your massive ego

    *sponsored by SwingTowns

    As a sex blogger, I get asked for my top dating apps on social media on a pretty frequent basis. My general answer is “they’re all good, for different reasons,” but it’s hard to put into 140 characters just what those reasons are. So, here’s a full post on my top dating apps (and sites)!

    I met my honey on Tinder, so I’m always going to have a fondness for it–but every dating site and every dating app has its pros and cons. Here are a few quick pros and cons of the three most popular dating apps that I’ve found, plus a couple of niche sites to consider.

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    A few great Tinder profiles that I’ve seen recently

    A comparison of a few top dating apps


    PROS: 7 million monthly users (Bustle), easy to use, and connected to Facebook and Instagram. Both users must swipe right to chat, which I find minimizes harassment.

    CONS: Only offers binary gender options.

    NEUTRAL: Younger user base, user interface prioritizes photos, has a reputation for being a hookup app.

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    A few screen grabs from OKC. That’s right; my main personality traits are “aggressive” and “kinky.”

    OK Cupid

    PROS: 2.5 million monthly users (Bustle). Focuses much more on your profile’s text than on your pictures and tries to calculate compatibility based on your responses to questions. Accessible online and through the app. Offers multiple gender options, as well as the ability to link your account to a single partner’s.

    CONS: Anyone can contact anyone. I loved the way that OKC prioritizes personality over photos, but left it after a couple of weeks due to the sheer volume of harassment I was receiving on it.

    OKC gender and sexuality options

    Ok Cupid’s gender identity options


    PROS: Only female-identifying individuals can initiate conversations, which is designed to minimize harassment. It also has a feature called BFF, where you can swipe to make friends!!

    CONS: Bumble’s user base is much smaller than Tinder’s–as of 2016, it takes up 3.6% of the market, to Tinder’s 25.6% and OKC’s 10% (Medium).

    NEUTRAL: Bumble’s user base skews younger (18-29), with a higher percentage of their users in this category than Tinder or OKC.

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    A few screens from Her

    Niche dating sites

    If you’re dating within a more specific niche, there are sites and apps for that, too. FetLife is a big one for kinksters, but from what I’ve heard, its user base skews older and male.

    For people in open/poly relationships who aren’t necessarily kinky, there’s also SwingTowns, who have sponsored this post. SwingTowns offers both free and paid memberships, and it’s designed to be used by singles, couples, or polycules on the same account. It offers a large user base (for a niche site) as well as a wide range of gender and orientation options.

    For men seeking men, the biggest app out there is Grindr, and for lesbians, bisexual women, and trans*/gender-nonconforming/non-binary folk, there’s Her.

    If there are others that I just haven’t heard about yet, I’d love it if you could leave them below in the comments!!

    Where do you click to meet people? 

    Edited 01/08/17: This post originally went up with a line break in the wrong place in the “Tinder” section, which mistakenly listed “only offers binary gender options” as a pro instead of as a con. This error has been fixed, and I really regret that the post went up with it–it’s one of my biggest issues with Tinder, and I would never intentionally imply that that was a pro.


    Charlotte Tilbury The Gift of Red Carpet Skin overview

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    The products: Charlotte Tilbury The Gift of Red Carpet Skin Travel Kit

    I may not be able to use products that contain silicones, but that doesn’t mean that I never want to use products that contain silicones. The Charlotte Tilbury Gift of Red Carpet Skin Travel Kit is a great example of this: it’s miniature, lust-worthy, and Charlotte-approved, so (naturally) I want to get it all over my face.

    Charlotte tilbury gift of red carpet skin review

    What’s in The Gift of Red Carpet Skin

    The Gift of Red Carpet Skin features six products in a TSA-approved makeup bag, and it’s designed to pamper your skin while you travel. (Handy, right?)

    It includes Charlotte Tilbury’s:

    • Goddess Clay Mask, a moisturizing and purifying clay mask with a base of mediterranean clay and sweet almond oil. It’s the only silicone-free product in this kit, and it just sounds gorgeous–I’m really curious to try it out.
    • Multi-Miracle Glow Cleansing Balm. This one is really cool too: it’s a deep cleansing balm, a face mask, and an all-over balm all in one. The formula features organic sea buckthorn seed oil, vitamins A, C and E, and rosehip and camellia oils.
    • Magic Cream (I am forever sad that I’ll never get to try this). Charlotte’s Magic Cream has an SPF of 15, and it’s enriched with hyaluronic acid, rosehip and camellia oils, vitamin E, and wild pansy extract.
    • Wonderglow Face Primer, for that glow-from-within look.
    • Supermodel Body, a lightly pigmented, illuminating body moisturizer. Charlotte describes it as “total body confidence in a bottle.” (If that actually exists, can I have some please?) (Wait, no, that totally exists and it’s called “half a bottle of white wine.”)
    • And finally, Take It All Off, a bi-phasic makeup remover.

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    The verdict on The Gift of Red Carpet Skin?

    The Charlotte Tilbury Gift of Red Carpet Skin Travel Kit has one major drawback, though: it’s really pricey. These six minis and vinyl bag run at $100 CAD for the set, and it’s a tough sell for me. I am hesitant not to recommend it based on the price, though, because they are luxury skincare. No one walks into this expecting to find a deal, and these products’ full-sized equivalents are just as pricey.

    For what you get (each product is 15ml), I think it makes more sense to buy one full-sized item and pick up a couple of samples at the counter. If that’s not an option for you, though, this could be a very convenient way to try them all at once.

    Availability: $85 USD/$100 CAD


    Toronto vs Everybody t-shirt & jean shorts

    Peace Collective Toronto vs Everybody tee

    It’s my birthday today. I don’t want it to be, but it is, and I can’t change it. (I know; I’ve asked.)

    I’m not ready to turn 25, but I’m going to attempt to pick up the mood a little with this photo set that I’m pretty fond of. This is my favourite shirt, and it’s the only thing that doesn’t make me feel too high-femme right now, so I hope you enjoy.

    (Also, yes, those jean shorts were totally pants up until this June. And yes, I’ve owned them for the past decade. Fight me.)

    Toronto vs Everybody t-shirt

    Shop the look

    Peace Collective Toronto vs Everybody Tee ($34.99 CAD). Size M. (If you don’t own a Peace Collective tee yet, you totally need to. They’re crazy soft and cozy, and they wash so well.)

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    Clarins Sunkissed Summer 2017 review, swatches, photos

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    The products: Clarins Summer 2017 “Sunkissed” Collection

    I promised a few quick Clarins Sunkissed Summer 2017 reviews in Monday’s post (which you should seriously read if you haven’t yet, because those false lashes give me Feelings™), and today, I’m delivering on that promise. I’ve gotten more wear out of Sunkissed than I have out of any other Clarins summer collection before it, and it’s definitely one of my can’t-miss collections of the summer.

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    Clarins Sunkissed Bronzing & Blush Compact ($40 USD/$42 CAD)

    Clarins releases a big, limited edition bronzer every year, and this summer’s Clarins Sunkissed Bronzing & Blush Compact is my favourite so far. But that’s by no fault of Clarins’: rather, it’s my requirements that have changed.

    Clarins sunkissed summer 2017 swatches review

    Clarins swatches, L-R in indirect sunlight: Waterproof Eye Pencil in 06 Gold and 07 Copper; Instant Light Lip Perfector in 14 Pink Grapefruit; and Sunkissed Blush, then Bronzer

    The Clarins bronzing compacts are always great for light to medium skintones, and before this summer, that range didn’t apply to me. They’re too dark and warm for my usual fair skin, and too sheer and light for medium to dark skintones.

    The Sunkissed Bronzing & Blush Compact runs warm, with an orange blush and violet-scented powder.

    Clarins sunkissed summer 2017 eye quartet review swatches

    Clarins Sunkissed 4-Colour Eyeshadow Palette ($43 USD/$45 CAD)

    Visually, I really like the clean lines of the updated Clarins 4-Colour Eyeshadow Palettes. But functionally… I really miss the flakey shimmers that they used to include. They were what took these palettes from “okay” to “WOW,” and I’m finding myself having to use a separate flakey shimmer to finish off my eye looks without them.

    The Sunkissed eye palette contains a really lovely orange eyeshadow (which I never would have expected to see from Clarins) and a warm, nutty brown, but its two lighter shades are too similar to be functional.

    Clarins summer 2017 sunkissed eyeshadow palette quartet swatches review photos

    Clarins Sunkissed 4-Colour Eyeshadow Palette swatches (indirect sunlight)

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    Clarins Sunkissed Summer 2017 makeup look | Bronze and blue

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    If you’ll remember from my recent Charlotte Tilbury #GLOWMO makeup look, I actually got a tan this summer. I know: it’s pretty wild. So, with my new, foundation-matchable skintone, I figured I’d take the Clarins Sunkissed makeup collection for a little spin.

    (Swatches and product photos are coming up on Thursday, so stay tuned!)

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    The Clarins Sunkissed eyeshadow palette & bronzer

    The Clarins Sunkissed colour palette is a lot warmer than what I usually go for, but with my summer tan (I’m now a Pür Minerals Light, a Cover Fx G20, and an It Cosmetics Fair), I think it works. Here, I paired the Clarins Sunkissed 4-Colour Eyeshadow Palette ($43 USD/$45 CAD) with Esqido Miss Dolly false lashes and a bit of black liner.

    Clarins sunkissed makeup look summer 2017

    Clarins warm eyeshadow makeup look bronze

    I know I’m in the minority on this, but I actually hate wearing my Esqido lashes – they’re SO uncomfortable. They’re way heavier than a single-banded artificial set, and they’re so thick that they cut off the top fifth of my visual field, leaving me stumbling around like I’m three glasses of red into the night. Maybe I just need to try a lighter set or something, though, because Esqido’s craftsmanship is just beautiful.

    I finished off eyeshadow look with two of my must-have products: Annabelle’s Chrome Single Eye Shadow in Rose Gold and Lise Watier’s Stay Sharp Eyeliner in Platine.

    Clarins Sunkissed eyeshadow quad makeup look

    Clarins Sunkissed Eyeshadow Palette with and without Solotica Graphite lenses

    On my cheeks, I’m wearing Clarins Sunkissed Bronzing & Blush Compact ($40 USD/$42 CAD), which honestly works as a really lovely bronzer for a light skintone. I’m not so sure about its versatility, though. Like most Clarins bronzers and limited edition powders, it’s beautifully pressed and scented, but really only works wonders on a light to medium skintone.

    On my lips, I’m wearing the Clarins Instant Light Natural Lip Perfector ($26 USD/$20 CAD) from this summer’s collection. 13 Pink Grapefruit is a nice, sheer pink that smells like chocolate oranges thanks to the fruity fragrance and shea butter base, so (naturally) I’ve been hungry all summer long.

    Clarins sunkissed bronzing blush compact review makeup look

    Clarins Sunkissed + Solotica Graphite coloured contacts

    Bronzes and oranges are always recommended for those with blue eyes, so I shot two sets of photographs for this look: one set with my natural brown eyes, and one set with Solotica Graphite contact lenses. Mine are from the Solotica Hidrocor range, so they’re a yearly lens with no limbal ring.

    I usually love the way I look with coloured contact lenses, but I’m not so sure about this makeup look. I prefer my natural brown eyes, for once. Let me know what you think in the comments, because I’m really curious as to what everyone else’s opinions are on this!

    (Although I do love the robot eyes vibe, but who wouldn’t?)

    Clarins Sunkissed eyeshadow quad review

    Clarins sunkissed summer 2017 review makeup look

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    Clarins Sunkissed 4-Colour Eyeshadow Palette ($43 USD/$45 CAD)

    Esqido Miss Dolly False Eyelashes, trimmed ($29 USD)

    Annabelle Chrome Single Eye Shadow in Rose Gold ($5.95 CAD)

    Lise Watier Stay Sharp Eyeliner in Platine ($23 CAD)

    Solotica Graphite contact lenses ($120 CAD)


    Clarins Sunkissed Bronzing & Blush Compact ($40 USD/$42 CAD)

    Clarins Instant Light Natural Lip Perfector ($26 USD/$20 CAD)